Overcoming Approach Anxiety

When starting out picking up girls or women on the street or anywhere else, overcoming approach anxiety is something that effects every single guy out there!

The reason for this is because every PUA has to approach, there’s no two ways around it! If you don’t approach you’re not going to get to comfort or qualification or to closing.

Approach anxiety never completely goes, but you can quite easily get it under control and make it so that even when faced with an extremely hot girl, you’ll easily be able to approach her.

Here are some tips to help you get over your approach anxiety. I overcame my approach anxiety roughly three years ago and I can still remember what it was like at the time. I know exactly what you’re going through which is why I wrote the book Destroy Approach Anxiety which you can buy on Amazon Kindle for next to nothing.

1. Clear Your Head – I’m all in favor of reading up and studying as much as you can about pick up. But all that advanced stuff you’ve no doubt learned is useless if you dare not approach. In fact my theory is that all this stuff in your head; jokes, routines, lines, qualification, comfort, kino, closing etc is what’s causing approach anxiety! No wonder! In the heat of the moment when faced with a hot girl, how are you supposed to remember all this crap?

This is why I always do day game, never night game. It’s far more simple with so much less crap and routines involved. When you keep things simple, pick up is so much easier and your approach anxiety goes out the window! I go through my entire day game routine in the article How To Pick Up Women! It’s incredibly simple which is why I was able to destroy my approach anxiety! Only after you’ve defeated your approach anxiety should you consider all the other stuff you’ve learned; routines, jokes, kino etc to maximize your success.

I simply keep things simple by clearing my head of everything I know when I make the approach. I go direct every single time! Read the article and you’ll see why! Day game is far more simple, as is the direct approach when compared to the indirect approach. If you do direct approaches in the day, in the street then you’re getting the best of both worlds. You should overcome your approach anxiety by doing these kinds of approach at least until you get over it.

2. Have A Wing – Having a wing man to go out with is great for so many reasons. Not least for approach anxiety purposes.

You can make each other do forfeits for chickening out of approaches. One game I played which might work for you is that you give your wing $100. He tells you which girl to approach and if you don’t do it, he keeps $20. Basically you have 5 attempts to win back your $100! Is not approaching that hot girl really worth losing $20 over?

Having a wing also gives you a reason to stand around in the street “talking” while waiting for hot girls to come by! You can start your conversation with “hi I was just over there with my friend when I saw you and I just had to come over to say hi”! Over time, this has been the very best line I’ve used!

3. Start Small – I’ve read in some places that it’s easier approaching “2 sets” than a girl on her own! This is because you can make conversation with 2 people easier than one and because the girl feels safer when with a friend. In reality the best thing is to do what you’re more comfortable with! It’s better to approach one, two or three girls than to chicken out altogether! Just do what you feel comfortable doing.

4. Build On Your Success – One thing I’ve found is that as soon as you’ve made your first approach on any given day, no matter how bad or well it went, you’re immediately fired up to do another approach. This next approach always goes far better since you’re on a high. Use this opportunity, this high to your advantage.

5. Study Youtube Approach Videos – There are many day game approach clips on Youtube. Check out a wide range to find a style of direct approach you think you can model yourself around. This will give you confidence to do it and it really is as simple as they make it appear.

6. Don’t Take It Too Seriously – This is really obvious. You’ll get girls that have boyfriends, are in a rush, don’t stop to talk or are simply just plain rude. What ever the outcome, just brush it off and go onto the next one. Don’t let a silly girl ruin your approaches, simply analyse where you went wrong and work on improving your next approach. Always take the positives and never remember the negatives. Best of luck with your approaching!